This is a serious post that I felt the need to post because I'm pretty fed up with people these days.
Rape is NOT a joke. under any circumstances. I don't care if you think you're being funny, I don't even care if you're quoting someone or something else. If you feel the need to bring it up, do so with 1 or 2 people who you know very well. Rape should never be brought up in a social setting, a room full of people, some of whom you don't know. You have no idea who could be in that room. You don't know if someone in that room was raped. Recently or in the past, rape scars you for life. Anyone who has gone through this horrific experience, knows all too well that their life was changed forever. And to hear someone, whether it be a stranger or a friend, "joke" about rape. It hurts. A lot. It can trigger flash backs, fits of rage and overwhelming emotions.
For those of you who don't know, I was raped July 5th, 2005. I was 16. I knew the person, I was dating him. I never pressed chargers. I didn't even tell anyone for years. I regret not going to the police now, and I would advice others in the situation to do so. It will be hard at first, and that is what I was afraid of. But in the end, it will be worth it. Especially if you go to the police right after it happened. The more evidence the better. It will result in the man being put in jail and marked as a sexual predator for life. Which can help keep it from happening to someone else.
If you are someone who feels the need to joke about rape, or speak lightly of it, learn to think before you open your mouth. You may not be trying to be hurtful or offensive but I assure you, you are! Honestly, it is not something that should ever be joked about regardless of where you are. But if you're stupid enough to do so, you're probably not bright enough to even realize how ignorant & heartless you sound.
If you have been raped....I urge you to seek help, even if you choose not to go to the police, talk to someone about it, family, a friend, a therapist. Don't wait, it just makes it harder.